ANAL SEX FOR BEGINNERS

Whether you are a guy or a girl, at some point you must have been at least curious about trying out anal sex.

Maybe you have been on the giving end or maybe receiving. Perhaps you always wanted to try it just to say you’ve been there done that. No matter how (in)experienced you are, here are a few tips to make sure the experience is a good one.

1. Have the Talk It is crucial that you and your partner have a serious discussion about what both of you want out of this experience. One of you should not feel pressured into something you do not want. It should be a comfortable and carefully planned experience to avoid any physical or emotional pain.

2. Get the Lube Lube is a necessity for pain-free anal. Silicone Based Lube is the best option. It doesn’t damage condoms, lasts longer than water-based lubes and is also smoother than other lubes. Oil Based Lube works well, but can damage toys/condoms and is a menace to get out of linen.

3. Start Playing with Toys “Rimming” in short, is when you stimulate the anus. The idea is to open up the anus to receive penetration. A small sex toy or even your finger is perfect! Start by pressing the anal area. Avoid in-and-out motions and rather focus on entering little by little and staying there for a few seconds until the sphincter can get used to that and relax, and then you push it a little more. Make sure you do this at a speed that is comfortable for the person receiving. FEEDBACK ALL THE WAY!

4. Good to Go Once you reached a point where you can comfortably insert the sex toy or more than one finger, and slowly thrust in and out, you are ready for anal sex. For beginners it is recommended to have the person giving on their back. So that the person receiving is in a position to control thrusting and depth. Remember the lube! And stay comfortable.

5. A Few Positions to Try Cowgirl or reverse Cowgirl is good to start with, or you can even try other positions where the receiving partner is on top. Once you are more confident you can progress to from behind positions like Doggystyle or on your back. These might actually be physically easier, but you sacrifice the control. You can also start getting creative with a few sex toys.

Stay safe, stay clean, stay lubed and keep communicating. Have fun!

- Moonlight Candy Team

WHY IS MY SEX TOY BROKEN?

They say all good things come to an end. Sometimes sooner than you expected. It can be a very sad day when you were looking forward to using your favorite toy only to discover that it has unexpectedly stopped working.

We made a list of typical mistakes people make and a few tips when it comes to taking care of your toy.

1. CLEANING It is absolutely necessary to clean your toy often and correctly. Use mild soap and warm water, or specialty toy cleaner instead, and make sure to dry them thoroughly. Do not use a dishwasher or put in boiling water and do not use alcohol or harsh chemicals.

2. BEWARE THE WATER When cleaning your toy, or using it in the bath or shower, avoid submerging the toy in water. There are still charging holes where water can come in and destroy the battery even if the toy is water resistant.

3. BATTERY If you're using a toy that uses batteries, take them out whenever you're not using the toy. If your toy charges, do not leave the toy dead for a too long period (a week) without charging; remove the charger when the toy is finished charging; and do not use the toy while it is charging. These will definitely affect the battery in a bad way.

4. USING LUBE Use only water-based lubricants and don't use silicone lube with silicone toys. Silicone lube rubbing up against a silicone toy actually ends up wearing away the silicone. Science etsê.

5. STORAGE Store it in a clean, room temperature place. Extreme heat/cold or sunlight also damages the battery and the silicone. Also consider getting a nice pouch to store your toy in to keep it clean and out of harm’s way.

We really hope these tips will help you build a long-term relationship with your toy, instead of short fling…as you both deserve.

~ Moonlight Candy Team

WHY ARE MEN AFRAID OF SEX TOYS?

Whenever the topic of sex toys comes up in a group conversation, it’s always interesting to see the reactions. Some get excited and giddy, some shy away while others take a firm stance against the thought of bringing a “foreign object” into the bedroom. And it’s also interesting to see that the latter bunch are usually the guys. Why is that? What are men so afraid of?

It is assumed that this illogical fear is hundreds of years in the making. Men have been assigned the gender role of “provider” and if they feel they cannot provide pleasure to their woman, but a tiny piece of silicone can, then they might be deemed inferior or inadequate. As you read this you can probably feel yourself cringing at how narrow-minded that perspective is, especially in this day and age.

The other notion is the fear that a sex toy will replace the man. A typical response we often get from men is “My wife/girlfriend doesn’t need a sex toy, she has me.” Gone are the days of sex toys being associated with porn or dodgy adult shops. Technology and women empowerment has come a very long way since then, and it seems that men have been struggling to keep up. If a lady wants to get a sex toy, she doesn’t need a man’s permission.

So how do we help our men get over this? It’s a simple shift in mindset. And this can only be achieved through communication. We need to explain to our men that a introducing a toy into the bedroom is not a replacement, but an add-on. The toy’s purpose is to improve on an already fun activity and should be enjoyed together.

Once the tension has eased, start experimenting! Make a whole adventure out of it! Do some online research together, go shopping together. Start with something small just to try out the water and perhaps start building a collection together. There are amazing toys out there not just for women, but specifically designed for couples and men.

A change of perspective can open an entire new world for any couple.

Since when was playing with toys and a friend not fun?

~ Moonlight Candy Team