Did you know that by the age of 35 around 95% of your thoughts 🧠 are just a loop that is repeated on autopilot?⁣

Unless you are consciously open to receiving new information without judgement, your brain will filter everything you see/experience/read/hear through what you *already know to be true.*⁣

Want to peek into your thought loops? Ask yourself these questions...

👉 What outdated/inaccurate stories have you been telling yourself for years?⁣

👉 How do you think that impacts the way you see yourself as a sexual being? ⁣

👉 How do you think that impacts the way you respond to your lover?⁣

Here’s a reframe for you: You can *give yourself permission* to wipe your slate clean of those old thoughts so that you can live a new reality - one that will feel infinitely better for you. Here’s an exercise to get you started:⁣

🖊️ Begin by journaling on the 3 questions above. Allow yourself to write without editing and see what comes up for you. ⁣

😢 Feel any feelings that arise as you write. Allow emotions to bubble up and be released.⁣

💖 Breathe into your heart and affirm that you are ready to see a new reality. One that isn’t limited to what you have believed for all these years.⁣

💫 Next time you notice an old thought pop up, don’t beat yourself up. Gently observe it and then choose a different thought that works for you and the life you want for yourself.⁣

It’s time to stop playing small and pretending you don’t know how powerful you truly are - in the bedroom and beyond. No more lying to yourself. No more acting as though you aren’t worthy.⁣

You are infinitely powerful, it’s time to reclaim that truth!

I’d love to know which of these ideas most appeals to you? Let me know in the comments!

- Lisa Welsh

Lisa is a Sexual Empowerment and Pleasure Coach who helps people to overcome sexual shame and insecurities so that they can step into their true orgasmic nature.

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So you’ve probably heard of “Kegel Balls” or “Ben Wa Balls”, from friends or even movies. And after asking a few questions you might have also considered if you should get yourself a set.

But then you notice there are so many options to choose from, with so many different functions, and do they even work…

To make your life easier and hopefully guide you into a direction to make a decision, we’ve gathered up the most frequently asked questions regarding kegel balls and the best answers the internet can provide.

1. What are Kegel Balls? They are usually one or several connected balls (usually made from glass, metal, or silicone) with a cord at the end which is used to remove them. You insert them into your vagina, then contract and release your pelvic floor muscles around the balls. It’s like a work out for your vagina.

2. How do they work? For Pelvic-floor strengthening: Kegel balls come in various sizes and weights. Do daily contraction exercises and increase the weight gradually as you feel like your muscles are getting stronger. As the balls get heavier, the more strength you need to hold it inside. Start small/light. For Pleasure: Some Ben Wa Balls can be used as sex toys! Some even have vibration features to make it even more interesting. Another use for the string kegel balls are to try pulling them out very slowly to heighten your sensations.

3. Who needs them? Aging, childbirth, and obesity can all weaken pelvic floor muscles and lead to incontinence. Training these muscles can help prevent potentially embarrassing urine leaks and may make sex better for both women and their partners during heterosexual intercourse. Sex may become more enjoyable when blood flow is increased to the area and making it easier to contract these muscles.

4. What are the risks? Kegel balls are generally considered safe, but it is advised not to use them right after you have a baby (you can have vaginal tearing that needs to heal), and you should not leave them in more than six hours. No matter what they are made of, clean them after every use with mild soap and water to avoid any bacterial infections. And as always, remember the lube!

Hopefully this helped you with the big questions regarding Kegel Balls. Now that you are all set to go, feel free to have a look at our options in the store and let us know if you have any other questions. Feel free to drop a comment below.

Treat yourself Moonlight Candy Team


Initiating sex can be intimidating.⁣

Putting yourself out there so vulnerably might make you squirm, especially if you don’t consider yourself to be a sexual or sexy person. And even more so if you’ve been rejected in the past.⁣

So, it’s easy to let your partner take the lead, enjoying the feeling of being desired & pursued while they make the first move.⁣

But it shouldn’t always come down to one partner to initiate…after all, it’s fun to keep things fresh, to let everyone feel wanted and to feel powerful too!⁣

Here are my top tips for people who want to initiate sex but feel REALLY awkward about it. These are designed to help you to gently push the edges of your comfort zone, one saucy step at a time.⁣

1. Communicate

Talk openly together, explain why you feel nervous and how any pressure will be totally unhelpful. “I want to take the lead sometimes so that you know sex is important to me too and that I desire you, but it feels out of character.”⁣

2. Get Ready

You can’t expect to feel sexy at the flick of a switch, so before you try initiating, focus on feeling pleasure in your own way first. THEN you can invite them in. Create your own sexy ritual – bath, candles, dressing in a way that makes you feel good.⁣

3. Set the mood

Flirt with your partner (a lot and not only when you want sex) and give them plenty of real/specific compliments.⁣

4. Be funny

Be silly, wink, flash a nipple, giggle or seductively eat a banana⁣.

5. Be playful

Chase, dance, wrestle, pillow fight⁣.

6. Be sweet

Cuddle up, climb on their lap, kiss and fondle them⁣.

7. Be direct

Kiss them on the lips and let your hand slide downwards⁣.

8. Be seductive

Leave hints (eg. lingerie in their pocket), make lingering eye contact, flash a stockinged leg, move sensually, stroke your own body, walk to the bedroom⁣.

9. Be vocal

Whisper in their ear, “I want you.” Text, “When you get home I’m going to… Ask “Wanna get naked?⁣”

Always pay attention to their reaction when you initiate and make sure that you have consent before progressing. We’re all human, and sometimes we’re not in the mood. Don’t let it stop you from trying again.⁣

Which of these ideas most appeals to you? Let me know in the comments!

- Lisa Welsh

Lisa is a Sexual Empowerment and Pleasure Coach who helps people to overcome sexual shame and insecurities so that they can step into their true orgasmic nature.

More from Lisa at her website ( ) or Instagram ( )