Ever wondered at what point the magic ends?
Will my partner want to stop making love before or after me? How do I keep the fun going for as long as possible?
You’d be surprised to know that there isn’t a set age limit, for men or women, when the desire for sex starts to die down. But due to biology and psychology it is bound to happen eventually.
So let’s break it down for each gender to help you better prepare for what’s to come.
WOMEN
In your 20s is when you are at your most fertile. So you are “wired” to have sex mainly for the purpose of reproduction. During this time you might be more picky about having sex and who you choose to sleep with.
Once you hit your 30s and 40s, after your fertility starts to decline, is when your sex drive is at it’s highest. You start having sex earlier in relationships, and start to see sex as a communication tool with your partner rather than a means to reproduce. You place more importance on sex and is more likely to stay sexually active during this time.
This is also the time when you might have already had a child (or more than one). Childbirth has an affect on your desire for sex, but it is different for each woman. Breastfeeding, raising kids, and other work can also affect the time, energy, and interest you have in sex. Although your hormones are all over the place during pregnancy, they should return to normal afterwards.
In your later age, 50s and over, is when you worry less about getting pregnant so you might actually become more interested in having sex. But this is also when you approach menopause and estrogen levels start to drop i.e. drop on libido (more on that here: https://www.moonlightcandy.com/post/low-libido )
MEN
At a younger age, like your teens and 20s, your testosterone levels are through the roof. Of course you are more hornier than you will ever be, but you also do not have a lot of experience. This creates some anxiety in men and can actually cause men to be “scared” of sex.
Even though testosterone starts to slowly decrease during your mid 30s, it isn’t by a lot so you will likely still be horny well into your old age, just a little less each year. It is also during your 30/40s that you become more experienced and confident in the bedroom. The major factors that contribute to men losing interest in sex are mostly stress, work, family commitments and overall health.
Interesting thing is that men can continue to have sex pretty much to the day they die, but factors such as mental health, medical conditions and medication can contribute to low libido and/or erectile dysfunction.
CONCLUSION
Bottomline, age is just a number when it comes to having sex. If you plan on “getting your freak on” well into your retirement, then the best advice would be to take care of your body, nurture your mental health, always communicate honestly with your partner, and consult a doctor where modern science can fill in the gaps.
Moonlight Candy Team